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"Hi, there! My name is Jaclyn and I’m so grateful we’ve connected! My passion is wellness and my purpose is to inspire people to live a healthier, happier, and more confident life.

My days: personal development, raising good humans, being a “girl mom”, bringing awareness around autism spectrum disorder, coping with ADHD, encouraging others through positive affirmations, and spending time with my hubby.

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Jaclyn  00:00

It just really inspired and pushed me to really start educating through my social media platforms, not just to other parents with special needs kids, but to the general public. Because I think it's very hidden. They see autism or hear autism and okay, they don't talk or they don't want to be touched. Or maybe they really need that touch, and compression, but there's so much more to it. So, yeah, I really tried to open our lives and be very transparent and educate others, having each county or areas in a general population, such as a town, having a place or facility that is for kids with special needs and sensory processing disorders where they can go. And it doesn't matter the level of process, sensory processing disorder of special needs, but having them be able to go to a place and it not be overwhelming and overstimulating and they can just get those needs met. Because not everybody can have a house with a sensory swing in it or a trampoline or things like that. So I really think that if there were facilities, especially in small towns, where these parents could take their kids and just have them get their needs met, I know it would be better for our family, especially on days, where you can't go outside, and you can't get those needs met.

 

Chad Ratliffe  01:29

Welcome to the daily naked pair podcast brought to you by rocket glue. The first ever brand focused on supporting parents with special needs children. Naked parent nation is a group of parents with special needs children, who are willing to give honorable, stripped it all down and take a look at ourselves, our parenting, our family and our plans create a life beyond our wildest dreams. On today's show, we'll be talking about how to feel less alone by educating others about ASD. Hello naked parent nation and welcome to today's episode of The Naked parent podcast. My name is Chad ratliffe. And I'm your host and before I introduce you to our guests today, let me start by sharing that naked parent nation offering naked parent nations a worldwide community of parents and professionals raising children with all kinds of needs, we come together to share Naked Truth, support our fellow parents and inspire the inner growth that each of us needs to build the life and family of our dreams. For the parents that are struggling, we want you to know that we will love you until you can love yourself, for your children, we pray and send power from our collective group. As we come to understand our divine nature, we realize that there's no need to feel sorry for ourselves be angry or feel lack, we come to understand that our feelings of limitation and separation are only in our minds. Through Self Realization, we expand our consciousness so that the challenges that perplex us today, dissipate one by one until we're able to see and experience gratitude and beauty and everything just as it is. We have the power to create any kind of life we want for ourselves and our families. We do this by living in the naked present moment, one day at a time. So if you're ready to continue your journey of consciousness, and awareness, or if you're ready to take your life back then let me welcome you to the naked parent nation and the naked parent podcast. On today's episode, we have Jacqueline knight who lives in Northern California. She's a 32 year old wife, mother of two, that children are ages three and four, both diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder, mom to three. I'm gonna have to learn more about this next part and stay at home mom with a passion to advocate for her daughters while educating others on ASD. So Jacqueline, welcome to the show. Thank you for being here.

 

Jaclyn  04:07

Thank you for having me. I'm excited to be here. And thank you

 

Chad Ratliffe  04:11

for letting me be late. One of the things about being a single parent with special needs kids when they call off school you are it's like a fire drill.

 

Jaclyn  04:20

Absolutely. And I'm actually joining from my phone today because we're having thunderstorms up here. And in the event I lost internet, I still want it to be able to join through cell phone service. So I totally get it.

 

Chad Ratliffe  04:35

Thank you so much. So I gave a little bit of your bio and then I butchered a part of it. Can you just tell us about you your family so we can get to know you better?

 

Jaclyn  04:45

Yeah, absolutely. So I'm been married for oh gosh, six years I think now and we have two daughters. Kaylee is four and Regan is three they're 15 months. apart. So that was a challenge in itself. The three additionals is actually our pets. And they are a very important part of our family. Because what we've learned with our kids main primarily Kaylee is that she really is grounded with the animals. And so they are a very big part of our family and their autism.

 

Chad Ratliffe  05:26

That's awesome. We actually made an effort to get a service dog for my son. And unfortunately, where there are parents willing to do anything, there are scam artists. And so it was an organization that was kind of, you know, pawning off expensive pets, so that didn't work out. But I'm glad it's working out for your children because I have seen animals do amazing things to kids 15 months apart. I mean, it's like that's like a there's that's like the fire drill of all fire drills. Can you tell us when the autism first came on your radar or you know, signs of something not looking the way you thought it was supposed to?

 

Jaclyn  06:12

Yeah, so it actually started very early with Kaylee, but it was not in the form of autism. She was having these movements. And as first time parents, we thought it was just some excitement, movement that she was doing. But my mother in law worked for her pediatrician and something's off. It looks like a seizure. So she was 13 and a half months old when we learned that it was possible she was having what's called absent seizures. And we were referred to UCSF pediatric neurology center. And I was very pregnant with Reagan. And so when Reagan was two weeks old, we spent two days at UCSF and Kaylee endured a lot of testing MRIs she did video EKG, the one where they monitor you I always get it mixed up. I've got a lot of medical diagnosis stuff in my head. So in that process, it was primarily on Kaley figuring out what this was and how to help her. In that time that we were at the hospital Reagan was extremely colicky, which we didn't even really know what college was at the time. Yeah, and I don't remember if it was a nurse or one of the helpers there, but they had mentioned colic after Reagan was up all night screaming. And so I started looking into how to help her there. And we learned she had some immature gut issues. And she started seeing a chiropractor. And as she got older, she would kind of Excel and then regress Kaylee was excelling. And I had to really step back as a parent and realize I can't come pair Regan to Kaylee. They're two different people. But my mom got was just very something as off the as a parent, if you've had a bad parent got her mom got you know, Something's just not right. And when Reagan was and at the meantime, we still didn't have a diagnosis for Caitlyn. We were still in the process of testing. When Reagan was about 16 months old. I really started questioning what was going on because she was just very typical, severe autism, but we just really didn't know anything about it at the time. And so I went to the pediatrician and I said, Something's not right. You know, I was correct about Kaylee. I really want to see what we can do for Reagan, and we started with speech therapy and developmental therapy. And within the first five minutes, the speech therapist had said she's showing signs of autism you know, she was climbing all over the table and climbing me and jumping and spinning and and I had no idea about regulation and anything about autism really other than they just typically didn't talk and didn't want to touch you. But Reagan was opposite she didn't mind the touching. And so in going through that and learning about everything sensory and how to help them and the food rigidity and all the just very unique things that they do with regarding sensory. I started recognizing that Kayleigh might be on the spectrum as well. So I pushed and got a referral to have both of them tested and it came that they are both Autistics so it was very relieving to get that diagnosis. It did open up some doors for both of them. And it just really inspired And push me to really start educating through my social media platforms, not just to other parents with special needs kids, but to the general public. Because I think it's very hidden. They see autism or hear autism and okay, they don't talk or they don't want to be touched. Or maybe they really need that touch, and compression. But there's so much more to it. So, yeah, I've really tried to open our lives and be very transparent and educate others.

 

Chad Ratliffe  10:31

That's awesome. I love that you explained how you really just can't put a box around autism. Hopefully, we're learning that. Hopefully, we're growing from trying to do that with social media a big part of your world before children, or is this building these platforms been since having children.

 

Jaclyn  10:55

So I've always kind of been on social media and had a social media presence. But it was not really a focus for me until a couple of years ago, I did partner with a health and wellness company, and it's all online, co chairing, and it's called Social retail. So I really learned how to navigate social media, primarily Facebook and Instagram, and how to get myself out there for my business, but also, I realized that was a amazing Avenue on how to reach everybody, I mean, strangers and people reaching out. So I just really in the last year, I kind of switched gears and shifted my social media platforms for educating on autism, and then self care and self development. And you know, just how to how to really navigate your life in a more positive way while also being educating for my girls and for all all kids with special needs.

 

Chad Ratliffe  12:01

Yeah, I have to tell you, I want to get back to that later in the show, just so we know. So we can find out where to find you online and and see what you're doing. Because I can tell that it's working. Because parents that come on the show that have children that are three to four years old, don't have the positive energy that you have, they're still in that they're still taken over by what just happened? Where am I? Why me? Is this really happening? Or is this a bad dream? You have a much different energy, but I have to go back to a new mom is hard enough. A new mom with two kids at the same time is seems double is hard. And then you throw the special needs on top of it. Were there some serious League Dark days have there? Are there still how does that work for you?

 

Jaclyn  12:56

Yes, it was very dark. For a while I did experience pretty heavy postpartum depression with both of my kids. Bragin was not a planned pregnancy. So it was very scary. I did find out I was pregnant with her on Mother's Day. And it was my first Mother's Day. So I kind of take it as as a like a you know, a little twinkle in a dark time and a very scary time. I had Reagan and two months or while seven weeks later, she had RSV she was seven weeks old. And it was the same week that the world shut down. So throwing a pandemic on top of it with a postpartum, a sick baby. You know, it was very dark. I did reach out to my primary care physician and I said I need something. This is not okay. So I did go on some medications to help with the depression and the anxiety. I actually started therapy after I had Caylee My marriage was not good, you know, new parents and navigating all the things and I chose to go the therapy route versus medication route with Kaylee and then I continued therapy through I want to say Reagan's first year of life so it was quite a while it took a lot to pull myself out of the depressions and out of the why knee Why'd my family why are we going through this you know, I was forced to be a stay at home mom, which is not I was planning on for my, you know, career path and future. So that was a big adjustment in itself and I really had to dig deep and just switch gears and realize sitting in the in the pity party is not going to get me anywhere and it's not going to be healthy for my kids and my family. So I just decided to switch gears and I did partner with a life coach that I actually knew personally She's amazing. And she really helped me navigate my way out of the dark holes and helped build my confidence to be able to educate and advocate on social media and really change the way it looks for parents with special needs kids and how it can be happy and amazing.

 

Chad Ratliffe  15:10

You are going to be such a light for so many people you have, I always say that I am uniquely qualified to hold my position. You know, as a single dad with five kids and two with special needs, I'm uniquely qualified, you know, and I made every mistake, I fell into the addiction, I fell into the depression, I had the nasty divorce, I did all the things that you don't want to do. But if it happens, I can help you navigate that because I'm uniquely qualified. You are in the same boat, there's, you know, you're uniquely qualified because you have two kids that are 15 months apart. They both have that. But you know, I mean that the list goes on at the pandemic, you know, and you're doing it so early to see any light wherever you are is a testament to who you are. So I think you if you don't know this, you should be really proud of yourself. Because you have great energy for where you're at in the journey. I admire you. I'm really happy that I'm meeting you. Can you tell us what a difficult day looks like? I can bet you can. We just

 

Jaclyn  16:20

experienced one yesterday. As I've been recently touching on a little harder with education in this area is sleep. And I don't even have the words it is a complete spin of the wheel. I was fortunate that my kids slept pretty well, up until recently, Reagan is kind of going through that transition of turning three and things change. So you know, we had the time change over the weekend, and I couldn't sleep so I didn't get much sleep and I was unexpectedly awoken at 430 in the morning from Reagan, who was bright eyed and bushy tailed ready to go. So it was a very rough day I was extremely exhausted. It's like I said, it's been really crappy weather here for lack of better terms. So she's been cooped up inside. And her food choices are very rigid. She's not been diagnosed with avoidance, restrictive food intake disorder, or a RFID. For acronym, and however, I know she has it. So when she's not getting her food needs met, it's tantrums on the ground. It's screaming, crying, kicking, getting dressed, she kicking and hitting me. And you can't really restrain them. They're very strong. She's little, but she's strong. And so yesterday was a lot of up and down with getting her needs met and an exhaustion from everybody. And when these hard days happen, it's really hard to stay positive because you really just want to scream and cuss and throw your hands in the air. But at the same time, you know, you know, she can't communicate with me, she's nonverbal. And I can't read her mind. And so it's trial and error. And let me tell you, when you get that need met, even if it's something as simple as a lollipop. And she's happy. It's like, we've got 10 minutes of everybody's good. So for us hard days are tantrums and, and not being able to figure out what she needs. You know, we've kind of transformed our house into a sensory sanctuary. We've got a swing a sensory swing in our living room to trampolines. You know, she's got a tent that she sleeps in because she's she's not a fan of sleeping in a bed. I mean, people walk into our house and they're just like, oh my gosh, a it's incredible. But be you know, this looks like a kid's playground.

 

Chad Ratliffe  19:04

Yeah, wow. So thrashing on the ground sleep deprived. That sounds like a challenging day. What's the acronym a RFID? A

 

Jaclyn  19:15

Yes, a our F ID and it stands for avoidance restrictive food intake disorder. Both of my girls do have this and for them, it can be very different with every child again, autism, you can't put it in a box. But with my girls, they primarily only eat neutral colored food. So kaisa Diaz, grilled cheese, chicken nuggets, brown or neutral colored granola bars. They do get a protein shake every morning because they don't eat nutritious food often. No fruit and vegetable pretty much for either of them. So I do give them a protein shake in the morning to make sure they're getting their nutrients. And I have discovered that They will eat these organic gummy bears that are colored, which is crazy. Like there's color to those, you're going to eat them. It's a struggle, it's a big struggle when, you know, especially people who don't understand it, and they're, well, why don't you just give them fruits and vegetables? Because they don't eat them? You know, it's a color thing. It's not necessarily a texture thing. So

 

Chad Ratliffe  20:24

is that something that can be a lifelong thing? Or is, is it usually a transitional kind of thing.

 

Jaclyn  20:32

It's typically lifelong. However, it can be forever changing. So, and this is kind of a perfect example. Reagan is very, she changed us quite a bit. So you know, there was one day that she would only eat gummy bears and HER protein shake in the morning and water, she would not be anything else. We've had days where she will only eat, we call them in our house because our Kaylee named them they goofy bars, but essentially, it's a cliff z bar for kids, and a specific kind, the chocolate chip kind. So we'll have days where she will only eat that. And some days, she will have an array of food. So it kind of just depends on the child, you know, I've seen where kids will only eat three specific things such as pepperoni slices, cheese squares, and maybe potato chips. And that's their realm. And that's where it stays. When people say they have really picky eaters, I encourage them to explore, and you can Google a RFID. And there's a lot of information online. But I encourage them to explore more into that. It may not be that you have a picky eater, it may just be that there are certain foods and textures and temperatures that are sensory nightmare for a child, and even an adult. So it's very interesting to learn about. And it really it helps the family when you can understand it, and there's a lot less fighting that goes on to get them to eat.

 

Chad Ratliffe  22:09

I bet I bet most marriages don't make it through this. I don't know what the secret is. I'm still in court four and a half years later from a nasty divorce. So it's been nothing positive, all negative, and nothing good for the kids. Do you know how you're going to approach this challenge? Are you guys on the same page or too early to tell?

 

Jaclyn  22:36

We are on the same page, it has taken time. And I did have to, at one point, give an ultimatum of marriage therapy or ending the marriage. And fortunately, he chose marriage therapy nice, where we did learn a lot of tools. And he My husband used to be somebody who was very against therapy, it was for people who are crazy. And now he's actually a huge advocate for it and openly talks about his experience in therapy, us as a couple in therapy and advocates, if you think you might need it, or you think you don't need it, just just try it. And we've had to use our tools that we learned a lot, especially navigating the diagnosis and the therapies with Reagan, you know, and me not being able to work. So having to navigate finances. That is always a big topic in our household because we are a single income family. He works in agriculture. So one morning, he might go to work at 3am and the next morning at 7am. So his schedule is never the same, which is very challenging, because then, you know, I kind of joke that October to May is single moms season because that's their busy season with his line of work. But I really encourage couples to open the communication and ask for the help and kind of let your guard down a little bit and just be open with your emotions. If you're having a hard day and your spouse comes home, I am having a really hard day. I know the dishes are in the sink. And I'm sorry that I wasn't able to get to them. And you've been at work all day and I've been here but it would really help me a lot. If you could just get the dishes done, and tomorrow will be better. That's been a big, big thing in our marriage is communication. And we don't get a lot of time to ourselves. I think we get maybe two dates a year. So that's been a struggle. However we do once a week after the kids go to bed. We sit and just say things that we appreciate about each other or something that was appreciated that week. He tells me a lot how strong of a mother I am and how wonderful I advocate and take care of our kids. And so that is really reassuring that even on those hard days, you know he still sees that that I'm pushing through. And the same, you know, I were separated to him. And we just try to work really hard that there's no resentment towards each other, you know, the I cooked, the dishes type of situation. And again, it's not something that happened overnight. It's we've we've been together almost eight years. And it's it's taken up until the last probably six months to get to where we are now. That's awesome.

 

Chad Ratliffe  25:26

That's great to hear. I mean, that I was scared to ask that question. Because that's not always the answer. But the good news is, from my experience, people that so addiction and divorce or addiction and marital problems can be extremely challenging. But people that go into treatment, or therapy and try to work together, seem to transcend what even a decent relationship can be. Because two people working on themselves and working together is a beautiful thing. And I believe that that's the recipe to a successful marriage, no matter what your situation looks like. So congratulations to you guys on that. What can you do with the situation that you have to take care of yourself? How can you? Is there anything that someone in your position can do to get self care for that parent that's saying that I, because I don't know where you'd have any time? But do you have to? I mean, maybe you have to make time? I don't know. Can you tell us a little bit about that journey for you?

 

Jaclyn  26:33

Yeah, absolutely. So first things first, if you're feeling that you're depressed, or having just crazy amounts of anxiety, you know, they have telehealth now even reach out to a doctor and just talk, you don't even have to go in with your hands off, just you know, say this is what I'm experiencing, what do you think we should do. And if you do need to get on the medication, don't fight it, I and then that's just a personal opinion, I fought it for years. And once I received the proper dosages of medication for anxiety and depression, it's like the clouds opened up in the sunshine came through, it was life changing and therapy, I highly encourage therapy or getting with a life coach, don't be ashamed of it. And most insurances cover it. And then also, aside from self care, such as taking, you know, a hot bath, or having a mommy timeout, or you know, going on a walk or going shopping alone, you know, really taking care of your body because most what I've seen as most parents, especially stay at home moms with kids with autism is your nutrition just goes out the window, I mean, hat most of the time, it's whatever they're eating, you're eating because you don't know when you're gonna get to eat next. And so, with my health and wellness company that I'm partnered with, there are a lot of products that I have tried, and I've kind of honed in on what works best for me and my body personally, so that I'm getting all of my daily nutrition and I'm getting the vitamins and minerals that I need, I'm getting help with my body physically. And even, you know, my just my skincare routine, feeling good in my own skin. It's something that women I feel like struggle with so much. And if it could be something as simple as a moisturizer, or you know, just to have that feeling of, I feel like I look good, you know, just doing the simple things to take care of your body internally and externally. And it can be on the go, you know, it's quick. It's, it's very simple. And with having kids with autism or special needs. Simplicity is key. You know, we don't always get to go to the gym for an hour or two a day or get to go on a run by ourselves. You know, we're I was listening to another episode on the mom piano, she lost quite a bit of weight. And she didn't realize she would be a ninja and Ninja mom was having a child with special needs. And that's exactly what it is because you're constantly running around and picking them up and just all the things and I myself have lost quite a bit of weight from that. And you know, everyone wants to know what I did. And I said, Well, I just checked my toddler's and another thing too is I really, really, I don't know how to say chiropractic care, I have learned is extremely important. For Children birthing process, whether it's C section or natural birth is traumatic for the mother and the child. I learned with both of my kids, their bodies were completely out of whack. And once their bodies were in alignment, things were much happier. Greg and started chiropractic care at five weeks old and still is in chiropractic care. And fortunately our chiropractor is incredible and notice that as a tired rundown mom with a baby on my hip 24/7 My body was also probably not wearing You get to be and she encouraged me to start getting adjustments every three weeks when I brought Reagan in for her adjustment. And it really was incredible to see how much better I felt physically to not, you know, my back didn't hurt my shoulders didn't hurt my hips were back in alignment. So if you again in most insurances cover chiropractic care, or even massage therapy, just doing something for yourself, to help your body and help you not hurts if you're if you're hurting, just do it. Just try to find the time.

 

Chad Ratliffe  30:36

Yeah, I think that that was a great suggestion. For people that want to learn about your health and wellness company or want to follow you on social media, where do we find you?

 

Jaclyn  30:46

So my social media, my Instagram is at Jacqueline Knight underscore there is no K in my name. So J ACLYNK, n i g, h t, underscore and then there is a link in my bio that has various categories of health and wellness. And I have recommendations on there as well, for what I do personally, to help with myself. And my Facebook is just Jacqueline night. It is a public profile so you can follow me or add add me as a friend, I'm always looking to connect with other parents with special needs kids, because having somebody to lean on and not feeling alone and being able to openly talk about the struggles and the victories of having, you know, navigating life. And then I do have a discount code link that I share in my Instagram bio. For discounts on the products that I use in my health and wellness shop, always send me a message, you can absolutely DM me or send me a private message on Facebook. And I would be happy to chat give you information, I can give you the disc discount code link there. But I'm an open book, most of my friends and family and you can probably tell on my social media, I'm very transparent. I don't want anybody to be afraid to ask the questions or ask to get help.

 

Chad Ratliffe  32:16

I love that. If we don't have it already, if you wouldn't mind sending us some of those links, so we can put it in the show notes. That'd be awesome. Yeah, absolutely. People that want to reach you. You seem like with kids, as young as yours, you seem like a wealth of knowledge. We do a quick lightning round of questions at the end of the show where you kind of give a one word to one sentence answer to a few more questions. Are you up for it?

 

Jaclyn  32:43

Yeah, definitely.

 

Chad Ratliffe  32:45

Okay, what's the best advice you've received? You can do hard things. Do you have a top resource or recommendation to share with other parents?

 

Jaclyn  32:54

Aside from Google, I would say get with your local regional center. I and I don't know if this company is nationwide or just in California, but there is a company called Ravel Institute. And between the regional center and Rural Institute, they can offer a ton of resources, whether it's reading material, or classes or in person care. I know with the regional center, they just approved us and we just started respite care for Reagan, which is huge, even a couple hours a week to decompress. So definitely reach out to your local communities that have or centers I should say that have familiarity with kids with special needs.

 

Chad Ratliffe  33:44

Nice. What's the next thing on your list that you want to add for your individual well being

 

Jaclyn  33:50

I now that we have respite care, I would like to really start using my time while Reagan is being cared for with their caregiver to look into how to change the stipulations. And the I don't really know how to explain it properly. When it comes to getting assistance from either your county or the state or the government, how to open it. So it's not just in the box because they look at a piece of paper with a diagnosis. And that's not the case. And I mean, every child is different and most parents with special needs kids could use the assistance financially. And it's very sad that it's not taught to these people, especially social workers that you can't just base a book by its cover. You really need to take into consideration what these children require and what the parents go through and then award their financial assistance or services based on that child Not based on the household size or income, or what a typical diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder is.

 

Chad Ratliffe  35:10

Well, for the parents out there naked parent nation that are listening to you right now, I'm gonna highly suggest that they jump on your bandwagon. Because if that's the thing that you're going to pick that you want to add next for your individual well being, you are going to change the landscape for US Special Needs parents. So I look forward to seeing what you're going to do. A couple more questions. What's one thing you think would improve your life if you did it or had it?

 

Jaclyn  35:39

Oh, that's a tough one. Oh, you know, actually, no, it's not because I was just talking about this the other day. And I think it would improve the lives of a lot of people. But yeah, well,

 

Chad Ratliffe  35:49

I'm gonna plant the seed. And maybe we'll end up doing this together. But I'm gonna, my kids names are Rocco, I'm blue. And I want to start Rocco blue ranch. And I want it to be a working ranch with kids with special needs that aged out of the public school system, a residential facility for them. But the ranch is supports the local special needs community with therapies and things to do. And maybe that's Nick, maybe that's in our future together, we'll have to partner on that one.

 

Jaclyn  36:17

Yeah, I would love I would love to do that.

 

Chad Ratliffe  36:20

Do you have a favorite product that you use for yourself or your children that you just love and couldn't live without

 

Jaclyn  36:27

two products. And so for myself, it is the products that I use with my company apart from partnered with am Modere and my kids, it's the deterra essential oils, I primarily use the tamer for their gut health, or digestive system, I should say. And then I do the soothing and grounding blend with them. It just really helps with the bedtime routines and helps them get grounded and calm and centered. I don't have a favorite supplement for them as far as vitamins, because they both take different supplements. Kaylee does the probiotics from Modere. And Reagan does smarty pants, because she can only do the gummy. So I would definitely say make sure that your kids are taking supplements if they're if they're not getting their nutrients through food, it helps with behavior and attitude and speech, all the things greatly. And then I love the products that I use and the way it's changed my mental clarity my body physically and my internal health is just it's been wonderful.

 

Chad Ratliffe  37:37

So just from what we've talked about, first of all, I've really appreciated our conversation, I've learned a lot, you've inspired me to be a better dad to take on today, more than I had planned before. So I want to thank you for that. And just from what we've talked about, or just like what's on your heart, what do you say to the parent that you know, in the dark doesn't see the light doesn't believe the clouds are gonna open for them doesn't think that any of the stuff that we talked about is gonna work just struggling? What do you say to them,

 

Jaclyn  38:12

I say, and it's very cliche, but it does get better, it will get better. And reach out for help. Whether it is a support group on Facebook, and finding a person that you feel you might connect with, I mean, it doesn't have to be the whole group, it could just be a person from the comment section of a post, just reach out and just, you know, Hey, I am in a dark place. This is really hard. I just need somebody to talk to whether you have advice or resources for me or not, but just not keeping those emotions bottled in. Because when you do, there is a chance there is not a chance you will explode at some point and it will, it will be really hard and just push you further down. And making sure that you take care of yourself so that you're healthy mentally and physically for your kid or chat your children with special needs because they need to see that mom and dad are there. Okay? It helps them keep that safe space, knowing that mom and daughter, okay, so just reach out for help, whether it's somebody you know, or a stranger, or a therapist, because there is light at the end of the tunnel, and the clouds will open up. Whether it's six months from now or a year from now. It does get better.

 

Chad Ratliffe  39:37

Yeah, we're in our third week of what's a support group on Tuesday night so it's tonight from 630 to 730 pacific standard time you can log in from anywhere in the world. If you need the link, just email me at Chad at the naked parent podcast.com and I will give you the login details Jacqueline It's been awesome having you. I hope we can stay connected. And touch base on your continued journey in the future sometime. Thank you for being on the show.

 

Jaclyn  40:10

Thank you so much for having me. I appreciate it.

 

Chad Ratliffe  40:13

Yeah. All right. Take care and blessings to you and your family. You too.

 

Jaclyn  40:17

Thank you, Chad. Bye bye.

 

chad ratliffe  40:23

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